How to Become A Man

Faced with a disoriented, hacking, sore-covered man who had been lingering for hours at the coffee shop, I wondered about my plan to continue grading papers there. The barista had been shuffling him from place to place, and his perch was now the chair in front of me. I got up to get a refill. Now I returned to work with him drumming on the table.

I stalled. Gathered up my stuff. Stood around. Man got up to move away. At least I would be a few feet further away from his coughing.

On further scrutiny, nope. The seat was still too close. Gathered up stuff. Stood. The barista now said to him, You have to leave.

Next: a former student of mine from the high school. One shoe. Wet shirt. Bandaged hand and black eye. He shivered but knew he couldn’t come into the coffee shop with only one shoe. Could somebody call him a ride? he asked at the doorway.

He wanted someone to come pick him up. Mental health facility wouldn’t send transport, he told me when I went outside. He continued to shiver. I recommended he sit at the table by the door where he might be a bit more sheltered from the breeze and drizzle.

He told me the police should come. When I called, the police balked: they had already dealt with him once today in a scuffle at the Rescue Mission. Finally the dispatcher agreed to send someone. Student did not want the sirens, though. He doesn’t like them. Not to worry: the police took their time.

Do you drink coffee or tea? I asked.

Coffee.

Cream?

Anything you want, he said.

I remember you from the high school, I said.

Oh yeah? What year did I graduate? he asked me.

I was a year off.

But he smiled broadly–nice white teeth. Happy.

Coffee handed over. Was he now 20? Been on the street for at least a year that I knew about. Five months in jail for stealing a car. Next, he said, he would have to go to prison. He does not want that.

Police came–an impatient officer who had broken up the tussle at the Rescue Mission.

He needs to step up and become a man, said the officer.

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